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10 Reasons to Start Speaking Kindly to Yourself (and How to Do It!)



Hey my loves! 🌟

Ever catch yourself saying things to yourself that you’d never say to a friend? We’re often our own worst critics, but here’s the thing: the words you use matter.


ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU ARE GOING THROUGH A TOUGH TIME!


How you talk to yourself shapes how you feel, think, and live your life. Let’s dive into why using positive language with yourself is so important—and how a few simple word swaps can make all the difference!


Why Positive Self-Talk is a Game-Changer

1. It Boosts Your Confidence

When you tell yourself, “I can handle this,” you start to believe it. Positive words act like little cheerleaders in your mind, reminding you how capable you are.


2. It Lowers Stress

Negative self-talk can pile on stress. Flip the script, and your mind will feel lighter and calmer. A simple “I’ve got this” can go a long way.


3. It Helps You Solve Problems

Focusing on solutions instead of failures opens your mind to new possibilities. Positive language turns “I can’t do this” into “How can I make this work?”


4. It Makes You Resilient

Life throws curveballs, but a positive inner dialogue helps you bounce back faster. It’s like building your mental armour!


5. It Improves Your Relationships

The way you treat yourself sets the tone for how you treat others. When you’re kinder to yourself, you’ll find it easier to be kind to everyone else.


6. It Fills You with Optimism

Positive language makes life feel brighter. Instead of seeing problems everywhere, you’ll start noticing opportunities.


7. It’s Good for Your Health

Believe it or not, positive thinking is linked to better physical health, like a stronger immune system and less stress on your body.


8. It Keeps You Motivated

A little self-encouragement can spark the drive to keep going. It’s easier to stay on track when your inner voice is cheering you on.


9. It Clears Your Mind

Positive self-talk reduces that noisy inner conflict, giving you space to focus on what truly matters.


10. It Encourages Growth

Talking kindly to yourself helps you embrace a “growth mindset.” Instead of beating yourself up for mistakes, you see them as chances to learn and improve.


Simple Word Swaps for a More Positive Vocabulary


Ready to shift your self-talk? Here’s a cheat sheet of common negative phrases and their positive alternatives.



"I can’t do this."  CHANGE TO:   "I’ll figure this out."


"This is too hard." CHANGE TO: "This is a challenge I can handle." (or "I've got a person who can do that!")


"I always mess up." CHANGE TO: "Mistakes help me learn."


"I’m a failure." CHANGE TO: "I’m doing OK and I'm a tryer!"


"I’ll never get it right." CHANGE TO: "I’m getting closer every time."


"I’m not good enough." CHANGE TO: "I am enough, I can't be brilliant at everything."


"I hate how I look." CHANGE TO: "Well, my body supports me so that's pretty amazing!"


"I’m so unlucky." CHANGE TO: "I can create my own opportunities."


"Things never go my way." CHANGE TO: "I’m in control of my journey."


"I have to do this." CHANGE TO: "I get to do this." (In other words, I"'m here to live another day!")


The Takeaway

The words you use with yourself are powerful. By choosing positivity, you’re setting the stage for a happier, healthier, and more confident you. Start small—catch those negative phrases and flip them. Over time, you’ll notice a shift not just in how you think but in how you feel and act, too.


Be kind to yourself—you deserve it!  SB xx 💛


 

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1 Comment


Sue
Nov 18

Sally what time of the day is good to have the smoothie, don’t want my blood sugar to shoot up ?

I don’t do fasting x

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